Marriage is sacred for most people and I am one of those. I can’t forget the discussion or better yet call it an argument I had with some people I talked to this morning. It caught my attention when one claimed that it is sad to know that Philippines doesn’t have this kind of law. Out of curiosity, I asked why it is a sad thing. One pointed out that Philippine government should give chances to those youngsters who happen to be in a marriage they really don’t intend do. This one makes my blood boil! Getting married and it isn’t your intention? Come on! Did the government let you do this for them to be blamed? Aren’t we given brains to decide what’s best for us? Or isn’t it sharp enough to use it?
Some people use marriage as scapegoat to solve another problem which I think is not right. And when they realize that their decision wasn’t that wise enough, they will cling to divorce! I would highly recommend, settle things on your own before you make things worse.
How about if your husband abuse you? Like you are beaten up? Another excuse! It means you didn’t know what you went into? You didn’t know what your partner really is. My suggestion, know your partner first before you settle down.
What if you caught your partner is cheating on you? There are reasons why your partner cheats on you. Not because men are born to be polygamous as they say. You have to do something to get your partner’s attention back. If this means you are becoming silly just to have him/her back, then do so. Loving is also discovering in the process.
I always think that when I get married, it shouldn’t stop there. I would like to consider my future husband as my best friend whom I can tell the deepest secret I have. A brother, whom I respect no matter who and what he is and a lover with whom I can share the greatest gift humans have, love!
Marriage is the biggest commitment a person can make. There are those people in other culture who work hard just to be worthy of marrying someone and yet there are those people who just give up on it whenever they face troubles in marriage. How ironic!
I just hope that I no longer exist when divorce is implemented in the Philippines.
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I have almost the same sentiments as you regarding this. I honestly do not want the government to approve the divorce bill. If some people have marriages that have failed and want to get out of them so be it but divorce should never be an option. It should be the last thing in mind when it comes to marriages. If a married couple has problems then according to their sworn oath to each other in front of God and in front of everyone who attended their wedding, it is their obligation to work things out. I am a newlywed and do not have much to say about working out marriages but I can say that sometimes problems and challenges arise. It is normal everywhere. It is up to the husband and the wife to take on them head on. The point is a marriage shouldn't be a temporary thing. If this bill will be approved then I believe that the sanctity and relevance of marriages will finally be violated and even become something that will not be taken seriously. Just my two cents.
Well said best! Knowing what kind of country we are living, marriages won't be taken seriously if this bill is finally approved. What's the reason of getting married if there is divorce bill anyway? I just hope that these people realize that when this bill is approved, the family orient attitude we have will slowly fade away.
I honestly do not want that to happen. I am family oriented and even if I know that in the real world, even some families don't have strong relationships, I know that at least, the rate of parents or couples getting separated isn't that big yet since it is not tolerated here. But then again when you think about free will and every other factor that you have to consider, I guess in the end it all boils down to the couple themselves. With or without this bill, I am sure at the end of the day if they choose to live two separate lives then that's their choice. It's selfish yes especially when there are kids involved but what are we to do when some people just won't get along anymore even if they believe that there should be sanctity in marriage. Hay! Nakakainis. Parang sinabi na din nating happy endings and true love do not exist since divorce looms over it all. I want to believe in such things pero sadly mukhang unrealistic na talagang maniwala sa mga bagay na rare sa panahon ngayon. It is a fact na not all married couples last together forever. I am not giving up on my marriage though. I will still keep on fighting and loving the man that I promised to love and cherish until my dying breath.
I know you will best. I am a living witness to how you saved a relationship and I salute you for that. As you know, I came from a not so good family and definitely I don't want to repeat the history. So, if this divorce bill will be approved, I guess there is no use to tie the knot. hehehe! I just felt the feeling of missing you, our conversation in person, movies together, working together... tsk tsk tsk! Oh well, that's life. :))
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